One of the hardest parts about being a doctor and being a sexually active kinkster is the shame that comes usually when someone asks what you do for a living, and you obligingly say you’re a medical doctor, after which the response is usually “Wow….”.
Now I have no qualms about reconciling my two selves, but I must say, I think I would be horrified to walk into a patient’s room one day and find out that he was the hot daddy with the giant cock that I had in my mouth the previous evening. Similarly, the last thing I want is to invite someone over and find out that person was previously my patient, most likely in the post-coital conversation that always happens with me as the guy is putting on his clothes.
And I admit, sometimes I slut shame myself for that, expect myself to be more professional, less kinky, more vanilla, for the sake of my professionalism. But the question is, should I have to?
We’re surrounded everyday by examples in which the media slut shames someone explicitly or sometimes even subtly, saying, “Did you know this congressman was found in a BDSM club?” or “This lawyer has been known to frequent gay clubs with various clients.” Not to say that celebrities, lawyers, congressman, and doctors shouldn’t go to bathhouses or gay clubs, but I have some friends who work in the media industry with their faces plastered on various screens every now and then, and they say they worry about being caught in a bathhouse or sex club.
As a doctor, I feel the pressure is even more apparent. I mean doctors are viewed as upstanding members of society. They save lives and are knowledgeable about the risks of almost everything. So if you saw a doctor in a bathhouse, wouldn’t your knee jerk reaction be to ask, “Uh what are you doing here? You should know better.” And I say that because those things have been said to me.
But I have to say something here, these places as I’ve written very clearly in the past, are places where people can express themselves and their sexual desires and experimentation in a safe place. If you want to practice safe sex, condoms are available. The same holds true for my bedroom in fact, where many a kinky thing has happened. And the shame that people apply to those situations, especially because I’m a doctor, puts undo anxiety and stress on a situation where that shouldn’t exist. I am still capable of handing myself professionally and being a damn good doctor in a hospital setting, and whatever happens outside of that setting is my own private and personal business. And sure my two worlds may cross, but I will hold my held up high and not slut shame myself. Because from experience, when I’ve embraced my sexual life and preferences and not shamed myself, I have faced no problems or obstacles, I have had no opinions changed for the negative and when they’ve changed, they’ve changed for the positive. So that’s that, embrace yourself and your sluttiness, and no one can touch you (except if you want them to in dirty dirty ways). And always remember, be professional in your workplace, and if someone tries to slander you, be sure to act in no way but a professional manner. Stay classy, slutty, but classy!